![]() Instead of taking self-responsibility, it’s much easier to dump the burden onto someone else’s shoulders and feel self-righteously empowered through blame. Most people like the comfy confines of their cages because it makes them feel justified about feeling like a “poor little” victim of life. Instead of someone else holding all the cards, you hold all the cards, and it is ultimately your problem if you wind up feeling shitty with what you do. You are the worker, boss, innovator, and creator all-in-one. There’s no one to blame, point the finger at, whine about, or feel victimized by. ![]() When you take your path into your own hands, YOU are responsible. The third reason why most people avoid walking their own paths is that it’s “too much” RESPONSIBILITY. Most people understand, on some superficial level, the consequences and therefore prefer the cozy, comfortable, and bland mediocrity of society-prescribed living. You will feel embarrassed, overwhelmed, and a lot of other uncomfortable emotions that come with doing something completely radical.Īnd on a mental and emotional level, most people see that. You will fall flat and land smack bang on your face. It kind of feels like stumbling through the dark in a room full of sharp objects. YOU have to be responsible for figuring it all out from scratch. No one is out there giving you a map, a set of rules, or instructions that tell you what to do. The second reason why most people avoid walking their own paths is that it’s a hell of a lotta work. I would go so far as saying that walking your own path guarantees that at some point someone will look down on you and say, “what on earth are you doing, you imbecile?” Second Reason: Inevitably, doing anything that may cause us to be rejected sets off those deep, primal alarm bells and raises the hairs on the back of our necks. And what could be more painful than losing a family member, friend, or even partner?Īs a species, we’re biologically programmed to seek approval because acceptance equals survival. Sometimes those people who reject you are those closest to you. You might be gossiped about, thought of in disparaging ways (e.g., as a “kook,” “oddball,” “idiot”), and outright alienated or estranged from other people. First Reason:įirstly, walking your own path means that you might be REJECTED by others. When you find that the pack you run with has the same goals, and want to see you succeed as much as themselves, you’re on the right path.Why Most People Are Terrified of Walking Their Own PathĪlthough choosing your own path may initially sound very empowering, there’s a reason why most people prefer to follow the herd. Seek out the people with the same vision. Building strength, and in a broader sense, building a fulfilling life, is more than just showing up and following the status quo.įinding your purpose – be that a short term goal, or lifelong journey – will be much less overwhelming, and infinitely more attainable, when done alongside people of the same mindset. Strength is the one attribute that is universally respected, yet increasingly rare to obtain. Having a profession is a necessity, but it doesn’t give you purpose. What, and who, do you identify with? Are you building a circle of individuals that want what you want? Or do you find yourself among those that only want to better themselves – without regard for how they get there? Outside of everyday life, and fulfilling a baseline standard of living, what do you stand for? The truth, however, is this mindset can be a very isolating (and needlessly dramatic) approach to life, and that to really succeed, you need a circle – a family, a pack- that embraces each other’s strengths and seeks to eliminate shortcomings. And we can accept the reality that often, this journey needs to be taken alone. We’ve all seen the strength athlete that makes analogies to a lone wolf, a lion, or some alpha primate, regardless of how inaccurate that self-comparison may be.
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